„‚ CONDITIONS THAT HINDER EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Such communication styles suggest dysfunctional communication patterns:
■
■
Women’s righteous indignation in the Mother role;
Men’s paternalism and protectiveness in the Father role; and
■ Women’s adoption of the angry or stubborn Child role.
If we take man ←→ woman and woman ←→ woman as our goal for many of our
transactions, then we want to eliminate the following behaviors:
■ Men’s use of women trainers as mothers—telling them personal information but
not treating them as real colleagues with whom they also solve problems and
perform tasks;
Mother
■
Boy
Women participants’ and trainers’ failure to share their competence with one
another;
Girl
Girl
or
Mother
■
Men and women trainers’ and participants’ use of sex to play out power and
control issues;
Girl
Father
Mother
■
Girl
Male trainers’ sublimation of anger at women participants or trainers (assuming
the Father role and protecting women);
Boy
Father
Girl
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