The Devils Deception by Imam Ibn AL-Jawzi

Chapter Eleven: The Devil's Deception of the i!fts
[ 11 :8 ]
Devil's Deception of $iifts in Matters of Listening (to
songs), Dancing and going into a Trance
Know that listening to songs results in two things:
First: It occupies the heart away from contemplating (tafakkury
Allah's greatness and servitude.
Second: It leads to falling into all other physical lusts (shahwri,
mainly sexual. It encourages people to gain more and more sexual
satisfaction, even through fornication.
The connection between songs (al-ghinri} and fornication (al-zinri}
is that songs bring spiritual satisfaction while fornication brings the
greatest of physical satisfactions. Indulging into a certain lust will
lead to having the urge of fulfilling another lust.
When Iblls realized that he will not be able to make righteous people
play musical instruments such as the lute, he convinced them to
listen to songs that do not include the lute. His goal is for them to
gradually increase from one form to the other. A wise man is one
who looks at the means, results and intentions:
For example, gazing at a handsome boy is permissible (for men) as
long as it does not cause them to become lustful. Otherwise it is not
permissible.
And the same applies to kissing a young girl and being alone with
a woman who is not permissible for a man to marry.
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