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never m<strong>in</strong>d…” does not improve th<strong>in</strong>gs… it just makes me want to slap you, which<br />
is not go<strong>in</strong>g to help anyone... (laughs) ...and my gran says “Oh, it‟s such a shame,<br />
you hav<strong>in</strong>g to deal with all this at such a young age…" …and I‟m like is it any better<br />
that my mum had to deal with this <strong>in</strong> her forties… or my granddad <strong>in</strong> his sixties…<br />
it‟s not any better or worse, it‟s still difficult… (l.965ff.)<br />
As Helen says, receiv<strong>in</strong>g pity does not help, it is just experienced as annoy<strong>in</strong>g. It could be<br />
suggested Helen considers be<strong>in</strong>g cast <strong>in</strong> the role <strong>of</strong> young tragic victim a bigger problem<br />
than her emotional impairment. This she sees as „a fact <strong>of</strong> life and someth<strong>in</strong>g I‟ve got to get<br />
on with‟. It is not her impairment that she sees as the issue, but the response to her<br />
impairment.<br />
In the follow<strong>in</strong>g two extracts Jennie describes situations <strong>in</strong> which the <strong>in</strong>trusion <strong>of</strong> people<br />
who know her or slightly know her and <strong>of</strong> complete strangers can be experienced as irksome:<br />
People do the wrong th<strong>in</strong>gs, too, quite <strong>of</strong>ten… people assume, you know, that they<br />
should help me on with my coat… my arms don‟t bend properly because <strong>of</strong> my<br />
illness, so when somebody tries to hold my coat for me, I can‟t get <strong>in</strong>to the coat,<br />
even if I want to… and people will… I‟ll say “Please, no, don‟t do that, just give me<br />
my coat”… and people will try to <strong>in</strong>sist, which is really obnoxious (laughs) …<br />
(l.1.131ff.)<br />
Here we observe Jennie regarded <strong>in</strong> the disabled role as somebody who is dependent and<br />
expected to benefit from other people‟s k<strong>in</strong>dness. What makes this role <strong>in</strong>escapable is that <strong>in</strong><br />
protest<strong>in</strong>g aga<strong>in</strong>st unwanted help, Jennie will be regarded as protest<strong>in</strong>g her ability to put on<br />
her coat herself, thereby re<strong>in</strong>forc<strong>in</strong>g the expectation that disabled people are always<br />
preoccupied with prov<strong>in</strong>g their normality.<br />
When I‟ve had real problems bend<strong>in</strong>g my right leg at all, or problems walk<strong>in</strong>g<br />
because <strong>of</strong> that… a lot <strong>of</strong> the time I‟ve tended to wear long skirts… because, be<strong>in</strong>g<br />
long skirts… loose ones… they cover it up… it means I can go about without<br />
look<strong>in</strong>g overtly disabled… and I feel safer on the street like that… not necessarily<br />
because I would expect to be attacked for be<strong>in</strong>g disabled or anyth<strong>in</strong>g… but because I<br />
expect to be attacked anyway… and I‟d rather not look extra vulnerable… erm…<br />
but, you know… there are times when I‟ve just got sick <strong>of</strong> that and worn a really<br />
short skirt… and had a leg that obviously doesn‟t function properly (laughs)… and<br />
people will tend to sort <strong>of</strong> gape at me… and I‟ve had a lot <strong>of</strong> old men come up and