ARHIVELE OLTENIEI - Universitatea din Craiova

268Ileana RomanThe role of the parents is that to prepare the children for theconfrontation with the social obstacles, inherent to life, founding the resistancefor the frustration and conflict, through an adequate behavior, for avoiding theformation and the exacerbation of some egoistic needs which, in some cases, canrelease offences.A hyper-protecting excessively affecting attitude coming from themother might lead to the lost of her authority, but also can cause someperturbations in the social maturation.R. Mucchiellin 7 , starting from a psychoanalyst conception towards ainter-actionist conception, analyses the repercussions of the hyper-protecting andhyper-authoritative parent’s behavior with regard to the negative influences onthe minor’s behavior and of the failure when trying to identify himself/herselfwith one of the parent.The parent’s authority deficiencies emerge from the insufficientsupervision or the total lack of supervision of the minors, associated, in theactual socio-historical stage, with an increasingly liberalism of the young peopleregarding the perception of democracy, of forcing the “emancipation” tendenciesfor independence, of the extra-familial socio-affective relationships.The parent’s indifferent and autocrat familial attitude. When deprivingthe children of sympathetic attitudes, when treating them with cold-indifferentattitudes, a latent aggressiveness is installed. At the child “neglected” by theparents, can be observed certain negligence in his/her conduct and activity,indifference regarding the school and some antisocial attitudes. In the affectiverespect he/she is emotional unstable and irritable.The children “rejected” by the parents are brutal, won’t accepts aninferiority position in a game, are reserved and finally rejected by theircolleagues. The indifference or the antipathy against them from the familyenvironment marks his/her existence, and the behavior will mimetically be arepugnant and aggressive one. The parent’s lack of communication ismaterialized in the hostile feelings towards them.The hyper-authoritative attitude manifested within the family by someparents, whishing to impose a strict and severe discipline come from theirdominating temperament. At the base of this attitude can be “the goodintentions” too, but, accepted with a very severe pedagogical conception, ismaterialized in autocrat attitudes in the relation with the children.R. Vincent 8 finds in the category of the hyper-severe parents along withthe resigning father, the dominant father and the tiranic father.The dominant father has an authority which expresses an exigentpersonality with prestige. He pretends, according with his dominating aura,obedience and respect from the children and wife, they representing weak7 R. Muscchellin, La personnalité de l’enfant, Les Editions Sociales Françaises, Paris,1976, p. 78.8 R. Vincent, op.cit., p. 125.