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270Ileana RomanAfter the divorce, when the family brakes up, or when living inconcubinage, is created an insecure climate, which can evolve, as M.C.Chombart de Lauwe 11 noticed, into social non-adaptation and delinquency.A family climate which generates conflicts. The role of the modelerplayed by the parents, including the imitative acts of the children, imposes someexigencies regarding the educational expression in the point of the behavior andof the verbal expression of the parents.There are family which, although “organized” (without beingdismembered), manage to create tense situations, with conflicts, of differentintensity, generated by distinct causes.This way, these situations can have multiple faces: starting with thedisputes, with the violent contradictions, the refuse to fulfill the familialobligations, and reaching more complex forms such is the physical aggressiveness,the moving away from the domicile, the existence of adulterine relationships.The tense situations are generated and maintained, in most of the cases,by alcoholism, moral promiscuity (prostitution), penal antecedents etc.When the intra-conjugal conflicts become more intense, frequent andincreased, they transform themselves into a disorganizing force and into adysfunctional syndrome for the family.The conjugal conflict with a pathogen substratum, with destructiveinfluences for the personality of the parents, with disorganized reactions andmaladaptations, impede the fulfillment of the normal functions of the couple,regarding their relation and the relation with the children.Starting from the capacities and the marital adaptation modalities, at I.F. Cuber 12 we find a conjugal typology with profound repercussions on thepersonality of the child. The five types of fields are:- The type of marriage where the conflicts are frequent and aren’t hiddento the children, but to the other people. Although the conflict exists, maintaininga tense atmosphere, the couple rarely breaks up, because, after the crisis, thesituation becomes normal again.- The devitalized marriage brings the discrepancy situation between the“first years” of living together and the next period. Characteristic for this coupleis the gradually dissolution of the harmonious, communicative and full of loverelation they had in the first years. The pair becomes apathetically, life-less, butthey rarely break up.- The passive-cordial marriage, unlike the devitalized one, ischaracterized by passivity since the beginning. Sometimes, the engaging in sucha relationship is deliberated, depending on the interest that emerge from this typeof communication (men addicted to their career).11 M. C. Chambart de Lauwe, Psychopathologie sociale de l’enfant inadapté, C.N.R.S.,Paris, 1973, p. 78.12 I. F. Cuber, Five types of marriage in Family in transition, Univ. of California,Berkley, 1971, p. 36.