IndexAdjourning Stage in groups, 101.See also Stages of TeamDevelopmentapology, 56Arbinger Institute, 80assessments, 191;360 assessments192, 205Asserting Yourself: A PracticalGuide for Positive Change(Bower and Bower), 5;assertiveness defined, 5Bay of Pigs, 100behavior-based interview, 142,143, 147. See also str<strong>at</strong>egic interviewBEST, 191. See also My BESTProfile, names of personalitystylesBixler, Susan, 119, 120, 157Bold personality: case analysis, 35,39, 43–44, 56, 105, 116, 129,131, 138, 163, 164, 168, 183;characteristics of, 19, 33, 38, 42,48, 53, 58, 65, 69, 75, 91, 110,114, 126, 127, 135, 146, 100,166, 167, 170, 180; leaders,117, 180; meetings, 19, 105;teens, 195Book Yourself Solid (Port), 63–74Bower, Gordon, 5–6Bower, Sharon Anthony, 5–6Brewer, James, 18, 191cell phones, 13; appropri<strong>at</strong>e use,178Change: case analysis, 14, 15, 26,35, 43–44, 55, 60, 87, 129, 160,168, 188, 198; with Three C’s,xiii, 5, 15, 17, 27, 45, 81–82,192clients, unique n<strong>at</strong>ure, 63coaching, 6communic<strong>at</strong>ion, 1–2; choosing theright kind, 176; defined, 1–2;e-communic<strong>at</strong>ion, 176, 177–78;I versus You, 12, 30; nonverbaland verbal, 2, 3–4, 5, 13, 56, 57,58, 114, 176; verbal, 3, 13; visual,3, 13; vocal, 3, 13Compassion: case analysis, 8, 11,15, 26, 30, 35, 54, 56, 60, 70,87, 94–95, 126, 153–54, 163,189, 198–99; firing a client, 72;
210 Indextell someone something theydon’t want to hear, 88; withdiscipline, 80; with emotionalquotient (EQ), 79–80; withSymp<strong>at</strong>hetic, 21–22, 33, 43–44,48, 53, 69, 166; with Three C’s,xiii, 5–6, 15, 27, 81, 192confident communic<strong>at</strong>or, xii, xiii,2, 3, 5, 6, 7, 9, 11, 45;confidence, xi, xii, 8, 9, 152conflict, xii, 100; personalityconflict, 29consequences, 5, 14, 15, 25, 27,44, 54, 70, 71, 72, 76, 77, 81–82, 86, 87, 88, 106, 129, 163,198co-workers, unique n<strong>at</strong>ure, 45–46Crowley, K<strong>at</strong>herine, xii, 17, 18Curiosity, 6, 8, 11, 13, 199; caseanalysis, 15, 24, 26, 35, 39, 43–44, 87, 116, 148, 154–54, 163,189, 193, 198–99; firing a client,72; with the Three C’s, xiii, 5,15, 27, 81, 192Curtis, Joan, 155n1d<strong>at</strong>a flow in teams, 100. See alsoStages of Team DevelopmentDecision Points, xiii, 6–7, 8–9, 11,15, 17, 18, 27, 45, 61, 122, 191;costs, xiii, 7, 15, 27, 61, 122,191; firing a client, 72; limits,xiii, 7, 8–9, 61, 191, 199; powersources, 7, 9, 27, 45, 61, 191Difficult Convers<strong>at</strong>ions: How toDiscover Wh<strong>at</strong> M<strong>at</strong>ters Most(Stone, P<strong>at</strong>ton, and Heen), xii,12, 81; adapted case, 82–83Difficult Person, 29, 32, 44, 69;Are You a Difficult Person, 30–31; tips for dealing with, 29–30discipline: defined, 80; how to,using the SIJR Model, 80Dugan, Lisa S., 119, 120, 157Elster, K<strong>at</strong>ie, xii, 17–18e-mail: types, 178; when to use,177–78Emotional Intelligence, 79–80,192; emotional quotient (EQ),79–80, 81, 87Equal Employment OpportunityCommission, 121etiquette, 169; R<strong>at</strong>e Your EtiquetteQuotient, 157–58evalu<strong>at</strong>ion in teams, 101. See alsoStages of Team DevelopmentExpressive personality: case analysis,26, 33, 41, 50, 53, 77, 87, 94,129, 138, 167–68, 188–89;characteristics, 20–21, 42, 48, 58,70, 65, 69, 75, 85, 91, 105, 110,126, 135, 146, 160, 166, 170,180, 185–86; in meetings, 21,114; leaders, 117; teens, 195feedback, 2, 32, 35, 104Forming Stage in groups, 99–101,104–5, 109, 112, 116–17. Seealso Stages of TeamDevelopmentGallup, 79, 80Gilbre<strong>at</strong>h, Brad, 79–80goals, common, 98–100. See alsoteamGoleman, Daniel, 79–80, 142, 192group dynamics, 96; defined, 97–99; case analysis of, 104, 107,109, 112–13, 116–17; personalityin groups, 105, 110, 113–14;stages, 99–101. See also teamgroupthink, 100gut-level decisions, 142–43. Seealso str<strong>at</strong>egic interviewHarkins, Paul, 6, 88, 94, 95;Powerful Convers<strong>at</strong>ion Model,88–89
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