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Imagine you and I were to start working together today. I teach you

everything I know and do everything I can to help you get results.

Now imagine we’re sitting in a coffee shop a year from now. What

would have happened in your life, both personally and professionally,

for you to feel happy with your progress? What would make you

believe that this was the best decision you ever made?

You’re trying to get them to describe their external and internal goals here.

You want to hear their true desires. If they can’t answer this question, you don’t

want to work with them because you’ll never be able to satisfy them. No matter

how much you accomplish—and no matter how much they pay you—if they

can’t articulate their desires, then you won’t be able to make them a reality.

Most likely, they’ll start by describing external desires. They want to make

$10,000 a month. Or they want a boat or a fancy new house in a better school

district. They want to lose weight or have a better relationship with their spouse.

This is a great start, but you want to dig deeper and get to the internal desires as

well. So ask follow-up questions based on their answers.

Question #1

Why do you want to make $10,000 a month? Why do you want that

fancy new house? What’s so important about the school district you’re

in?

Then they’ll start revealing the values and beliefs that are truly important to

them. Maybe they want $10,000 a month to prove to their family that they’re a

good provider. Or maybe they have a favorite charity they want to support in a

big way. Maybe they want to be in a good school district because their kids

aren’t being challenged where they are. Or maybe they are childless and their

spouse has given up hope of ever having a family. They are hoping that moving

to a good school district will demonstrate that there’s still hope.

Do you see how very different those inner desires can be for different

people, even though they want the same things? You need to know those inner

reasons WHY they want what they want. So keep digging until they reveal those

deep emotional connections.

At the end of the day, we all want the same things—respect, inclusion, and

purpose. When you dig and dig and eventually they say something that reveals

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