SEXIS WRONG

so I was always sheltered in regard to sex educa tion. It’s still
taught in a sheltered way.
We always did what we wanted, the piano lessons, the ballet,
everything. We always got what we wanted but had to work
for it. They instilled that.
Has living in a male-dominated society played a role in
shaping your sexu ality? ~ Of course it has. I want a dick,
you know. I want a dick to show them what it’s like. I want a
dick, and I want to drive it up their ass and stick it down their
throat, and show them why I am cold and what I am feeling,
to show them what they’re like. Of course it’s made me very
angry when I look at the world, dominated by guys. Yeah!
That’s why I’m cold and bitter and angry. I don’t like them.
Fucked up.
Very few people have self-defenses,
fronts, or attitudes when they’re
naked.
Do women play a part in the creation of male sexuality?
~ We run the whole show. We run this whole fuckin’ world.
The world is based on pussy. Face it. Obviously, we’ve made
them dogs at this point. We have created that. We’ve made
men really pathetic and desperate for women, for sex, for
naughty sex, for infidelity. Yeah, we’ve made them macho.
We have made you like you are, and now I think we’re trying
to reverse it all. We’ve lured them on to make money, to survive,
so we’ve gone to our bodies. It started in the age of slavery
when we were getting banged, but that was no choice,
and we’ve just reversed it. We’re basically making you the
suckers. We’ve made you the dogs. Because we know that
you want it and we’ve played on it.
Lilith
Describe the interaction and commentary among the
dancers onstage. ~ It depends on who’s onstage, how you
get along with them, if they have the same musical taste as
you, if you have things in common or not. I find I have different
perceptions than a lot of the people because I’m not
American. I’m not quite sure to what extent the Americans
are aware of that.
There is a genuine level of warmth and support that’s deeper
than what’s required for the job. Most of the women are very
caring and empathic towards each other, even when they’re
being bitchy. There’s a certain base level of support that
doesn’t disappear. I have been onstage very few times when
there were incidents or bad feelings. It’s one of the best work
environ ments I’ve ever worked in.
Incredible levels of intimacy are reached because we’re being
sexual with people. Upfront sexual with four other people.
There’s a lot more sharing about where people are at with
their sexuality. There’s advice, commentary, exchange of anecdotes,
flirtation, right down to enactment of real-life sexual
stuff. You hear about couples in the theater, plus crushes,
fancies, and admi ration.
I feel a very strong admiration for several of the women. For
the warmth and compassion of their natures and how they
deal with different situations onstage. These are traits not
necessarily cultivated by the job, but traits that the women
have themselves. It was very much an eye-opener for me to
see some typically female qualities stronger here than they
would be allowed to be in many other environments. Here
we’re dealing with the connection between female power
and female eroticism, the forbidden, repressed secret not to
be allowed connection—it’s being forged, and
that obviously empowers the women.
This is an excellent observatory of human nature
and behavior. Very few people have selfdefenses,
fronts, or attitudes when they’re naked. People are
a lot more open and honest with each other here than they
are in other fields. That’s something that people want—partly
this is what’s on sale, the vibe between the women. It’s
pretty dead with four girls onstage who don’t relate particularly
well. When you are onstage with women who are possessed
of high amounts of physical and erotic energy, it’s a
very strong power experi ence, very interesting. It definitely
is a big part of the growth experience for me, having the opportunity
to learn from some of the women. People make
very sexual comments to each other, about each other, about
their bodies, about how big or little their breasts have gotten;
did it hurt when you pierced your clitoris and your nipples; oh,
you’ve put on weight; oh, that looks nice on you, that doesn’t;
if you don’t get along well with men, you should try it with
women—everything.
I was quite surprised when I first heard that healing occurs
here, women healing themselves, each other, and
customers. Describe what you know about this. ~ I feel
that I healed myself by deprogramming a lot of basic Catholic
attitudes toward my sexuality, guilt, and the last vestiges of
being unable to touch my own body. I’ve learned to feel proud
about my vagina, feel that this is a good part of me. A lot of
the final stages of my break through went on in the theater by
reprogramming out of patriarchal attitudes. Healing is happening
on a physical, spiritual, and psychological level.
For a lot of women, it’s a healing experience if it’s the first
time they come in touch with their erotic power. To feel their
flow is definitely empowering and strengthening. It heals the
whole space that women have between the nice girl and the
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