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ters,” neither enchanted nor repulsed by members of the opposite<br />
sex. Buddha kept his promise and returned to see his<br />
Queen Yaśodharā and their son, Rāhula. In a marvelous display<br />
of pique, Yaśodharā refused to go to the palace gate to greet<br />
her ex-husband. “If he really is noble,” she told her father-inlaw,<br />
the king, “he will come to my presence. Then I shall pay<br />
my respects.” And, in fact, it was the Buddha who made the<br />
first move. 39 Yaśodharā, dressed in bright raiment and jewels,<br />
made a final attempt to win Gotama back, but it was too late.<br />
According to pious tradition, both Yaśodharā and Rāhula entered<br />
the Buddha’s Order of Celi bates and lived happily ever<br />
after. There is, however, other evi dence that suggests that<br />
Yaśodharā remained aloof, acting as her own refuge, not entirely<br />
forgiving Gotama’s abrupt abandonment of their marriage<br />
bed. 40<br />
One text states that upon Gotama’s<br />
enlighten ment, the earth shook like<br />
a woman in the throes of bliss—an<br />
all-embracing cosmic orgasm that<br />
transformed human consciousness.<br />
Looking at the story of Gotama in allegorical terms, we can see<br />
that it represents ultimates. In the palace, Gotama had access<br />
to every kind of physical pleasure (of which sex was preeminent).<br />
Such extreme luxury, however, brought him no peace of<br />
mind; on the contrary, Gotama discovered that sybaritic indulgence<br />
is a deadly narcotic that eventually destroys body and<br />
soul. From that extreme, Gotama went to another. All stimulation<br />
was shunned and sensual feelings or thoughts ruthlessly<br />
suppressed. Shutting out the phenomenal world, depriving<br />
oneself of every comfort or en joyment, and remaining in a<br />
state of suspended animation was the goal. This method, too,<br />
leads to destruction, as Gotama learned nearly at the cost of<br />
his life.<br />
After being immersed in both extremes, Gotama was awakened<br />
to the Middle Way, a centered path that leads safely<br />
through the poles of all-consuming fiery passion and the frigid<br />
depths of ascetic self-torture. While Buddha continued to<br />
eat, taking food as medicine, essential for the maintenance of<br />
life, sex was entirely dis pensed with. Buddha, who had his fill<br />
of sex as Gotama the prince, thus represents a state beyond<br />
physical craving; bud (awake), the root of “Buddha,” is neuter, a<br />
condition free of both gender and sex. In that respect Buddha<br />
ranks infinitely higher than the gods—sooner or later even the<br />
delights of paradise corrupt the inhabitants there and they fall<br />
again into the whirl of samsara.<br />
Although Buddha’s lofty asexuality was held as the ultimate<br />
hu man goal, it was an ideal that few could—or, it must be admitted,<br />
would want to—attain, and the problem of sex and<br />
how to deal with it remained a sticky issue for each generation<br />
of Buddhists.<br />
Endnotes<br />
1. Material in this chapter is a composite drawn from the following sources. Pali<br />
texts: I.B. Horner, The Collection of Middle Length Sayings, 3 vols. (London: Pali<br />
Text Society, 1979); C.A.F. Rhys Davids and F.L. Woodward, The Book of Kindred<br />
Sayings, 5 vols. (London: Pali Text Society, 1979); T.W. Rhys Davids and C.A.F. Rhys<br />
Davids, Dialogues of the Buddha, 3 vols. (London: Pali Text Society, 1977); F.L.<br />
Woodward and E.M. Hare, The Book of Gradual Sayings, 5 vols. (London: Pali<br />
Text Society, 1979); I.B. Horner, Book of the Discipline, 6 vols. (London: Pali Text<br />
Society, 1982); T.W. Rhys Davids and H. Oldenberg, Vinaya Texts, 3 vols. (Delhi:<br />
Motilal Banarsidass, 1968 reprint); E.W. Burlingame, Buddhist Legends, 3 vols.<br />
(London: Pali Text Society, 1969). Classical biographies of the Buddha: G. Bays,<br />
The Voice of the Buddha: Lalitavistara Sutra, 2 vols. (Berkeley: Dharma Publishing,<br />
1983); S. Beal, Fo-Sho-Hing-Tsan-King: A Life of Buddha (Delhi: Motilal<br />
Banarsidass, reprint 1968); S. Beal, The Romantic Legend of Śākya Bud dha (Delhi:<br />
Motilal Banarsidass, reprint, 1985); E.H. Johnston, The Buddhacarita or Acts<br />
of the Buddha (Delhi: Motilal Banarsidass, 1984); J.J. Jones, The Mahāvastu, 3<br />
vols. (London: Pali Text Society, 1973); N. Poppe, The Twelve Deeds of Buddha<br />
(Wiesbaden: Otto Harrassowitz, 1967); W.W. Rockwell, The Life of Buddha (London:<br />
Trubner’s Oriental Series, 1884). Pictorial biographies: J. Auboyer, et al.,<br />
Buddha: A Pictorial History of His Life and Legacy (New Delhi: Roli Books International,<br />
1983); N.J. Krom, The Life of Buddha on the Stupa of Barabudur (Delhi:<br />
Bhartiya Publishing House, 1974). Modern biographies: A. Coomaraswamy, Buddha<br />
and the Gospel of Buddhism (Secaucus, N.J.: Citadel Press, 1988); A. Foucher,<br />
The Life of Buddha (Westport, Conn.: Greenwood Press, 1963); P. Herbert, The<br />
Life of the Buddha (London: British Museum, 1990). D.J. Kalupahana and I. Kalupahana,<br />
The Way of Siddhartha: A Life of the Buddha (Boulder:<br />
Shambhala Publications, 1983); A. Lillie, The Life of Buddha<br />
(Delhi: Seema Publications, 1974); Nanamoli, The Life of<br />
the Buddha (Kandy: Buddhist Publication Society, 1972); H.<br />
Nakamura, Gotama Buddha (Los Angeles & Tokyo: Buddhist<br />
Books International, 1977); E.J. Thomas, The Life of Buddha<br />
as Legend and History (London: Routledge & Kegan Paul, reprint<br />
1969). There is also a novel on the subject by W.E. Barrett,<br />
Lady of the Lotus: The Untold Love Story of The Buddha<br />
and His Wife (Los Angeles: Jeremy P. Tarcher, 1975). 2. See, for<br />
example, Bays, Voice of the Buddha, vol. 1: 42; Beal, Roman tic Legend: 32; Thomas,<br />
Life of Buddha: 29. 3. Bays, Voice of the Buddha, vol. 1: 44-5; Jones,<br />
Mahāvastu, vol. 2: 7ff. 4. The Mahāvastu states that the Buddha deliberately<br />
incarnates himself into the womb of a woman who has only ten months and<br />
seven days to live because it would not be proper for her to “indulge in the pleasures<br />
of love after giving birth to a Peerless One” (vol. 2: 3). 5. This description of<br />
Gotama is based on the 32 distinguishing marks of a Buddha. See Bays, Voice of<br />
the Buddha, vol. 1: 155ff.; Beal, Romantic History: 55; Rhys Davids and Rhys Davids,<br />
Dialogues of the Buddha, vol. 3: 138ff.; Jones, Mahāvastu, vol. 1: 180-1;<br />
Thomas, Life of Buddha: 220-1, which lists both the 32 major and 80 minor characteristics<br />
of a Buddha. For further information on Buddha’s physical form, see<br />
D.L. Snellgrove, ed., The Image of the Buddha (Tokyo: Kodansha International,<br />
1978). 6. The Chinese texts (e.g., Beal, Fo-Sho-Hing-Tsan-King: 14) state that<br />
Buddha’s sex organs were hidden like those of a stallion. According to the Tibetan<br />
tradition, the Dalai Lamas are supposed to possess a simi lar ability to “retract”<br />
their sex organs; see M. Aris, Hidden Treasures and Secret Lives (Delhi:<br />
Motilal Banarsidass, 1988): 197. 7. In Buddha’s time, there were “public days” in<br />
which unmarried girls, who were normally sequestered, would promenade<br />
through the town in hopes of capturing the fancy of a young man. See H.C. Warren,<br />
Buddhism in Translation (Cambridge: Harvard University Press, 1986): 455.<br />
8. Jones, Mahāvastu, vol. 2: 70; Krom, plate 48. 9. Beal, Romantic Legend: 92.<br />
Plate 19 in W. Zwalf, Buddhism: Art and Faith (London: British Museum Publications,<br />
1985) seems to depict a wedding scene of Gotama and one of his wives.<br />
10. Bays, Voice of the Buddha, vol. 1: 235-6: Krom, plate 55. 11. Thomas, Life of<br />
Buddha: 48ff., discusses the different names given Buddha’s wives. 12. Beal, Romantic<br />
Legend: 96ff. 13. This exchange occurs in T. Cleary, The Flower Ornament<br />
Scripture (Boston: Shambhala Publications, 1987): 284-8. 14. For examples<br />
of lush Buddhist beauties see S. Huntington and J. Huntington, The Art of Ancient<br />
India (Tokyo: John Weatherhill, 1987); G. Michael, et al., In the Image of<br />
Man (London: Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 1982); P. Rawson, Erotic Art of the East<br />
(New York: G.P. Put nam’s Sons, 1968); Oriental Erotic Art (London: Quartet Books,<br />
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