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ées other than workshops given by masturbation guru Betty<br />
Dodson and occasional reunions of Dodson alumnae. Again,<br />
we don’t know if fewer women than men have gotten together<br />
just for masturbation, or if they simply have not written<br />
much about it—perhaps both.<br />
But I did read about some mixed-gender sex parties that focused<br />
on sharing self-help:<br />
Mother Goose (Delores) spearheads these monthly<br />
gatherings...and tells me, “The folks that come to<br />
our events range from 18 to 80.... Men and women<br />
all together in the same space at the same time—<br />
some gay, some lesbian, crossdressers. Some bring<br />
leather, some only want to watch, some are showoffs.<br />
We are all dedicated to Jacking and Jilling.<br />
Some do massage, some whip the daylights out<br />
of each other, some do dirty dancing, etc.” There<br />
are some simple rules: no fucking, no unprotected<br />
sex, no rude behavior. (CTS, 1995)<br />
~<br />
Club Relate is a club for people that enjoy and include<br />
masturbation in their sex play and desire<br />
meeting other people in a party setting for group<br />
masturbation.... Currently, the Club’s parties are<br />
held three Saturdays per month in<br />
Orlando and Tampa…. Swinging and/<br />
or penetration is an option among consenting<br />
participants...[but] the primary<br />
reason for Club Relate’s existence is<br />
masturbation. (Club Relate website, 2005)<br />
~<br />
[T]he Center for Sex and Culture will hold its<br />
fourth annual fund-raising Masturbate-a-Thon on<br />
May 28…. [T]he CSC’s Masturbate-a-Thon is a live<br />
group event at which participants will raise funds<br />
by getting others to sponsor them for each minute<br />
they masturbate…. Separate areas…will be set<br />
aside for men who would prefer to masturbate together<br />
and women who want a single-sex space,<br />
with the rest of the room a mixed-gender venue….<br />
(Masturbate-a-Thon.com, 2005)<br />
The San Francisco Mother Goose parties began in 1987 as<br />
an enlargement of the “jacks” concept. These parties appear<br />
to have ceased, but their function has been subsumed by the<br />
more general sex parties, such as the Queen of Heaven parties,<br />
which have stressed safer sex, eclectic attendance, and a<br />
variety of activities, from masturbation to fisting. On the East<br />
Coast, the all-male New York Jacks held a mixed-gender Jack<br />
and Jill Party for at least several years in the 1990s. By contrast,<br />
Club Relate grew out of the swingers’ movement, from<br />
the large responses to one couple’s advertisements for others<br />
interested in sharing masturbation. Club Relate is a member of<br />
NASCA—North American Swing Clubs Association.<br />
The San Francisco sex-toy company Good Vibrations started<br />
the Masturbate-a-Thons in 1998 to raise funds for safer-sex<br />
causes and to educate the public about using self-pleasuring<br />
as a safe-sex strategy. The first live, group version was organized<br />
by Carol Queen, founder of the Center for Sex and Culture,<br />
in 2000. Over the years, 1,700 participants have “come<br />
for a cause” and raised over $25,000.<br />
Since by no means all swinging takes place in formal, organized<br />
groups, there might well be small, informal, mixedgender<br />
masturbation circles besides Club Relate. Judging<br />
from ads on the Internet, a good many heterosexual men are<br />
interested in sharing masturbation with women. But only a<br />
few women seem to advertise on the Net for either male or<br />
female masturbation companions.<br />
So I’ve concluded that sharing masturbation has long been<br />
an enjoyed activity for at least some men, perhaps not a<br />
few. But only recently have groups organized and gone public—male-only<br />
and coed. The sexual revolution, the gay rights<br />
Some men show off solo,<br />
while others go at it together in<br />
pairs and clusters.<br />
movement, the AIDS epidemic, and the Xerox machine have<br />
surely all contributed to a more open milieu for an historically<br />
undercover activity. And now the Internet allows wannabes<br />
to find out about JO and JJO clubs, as well as contact each<br />
other for private gatherings and even to start new clubs.<br />
One needs to experience this activity (first hand)<br />
to understand just how satisfying it can be. At<br />
least part of the satisfaction has to be the knowing<br />
that transmission of disease has not been risked.<br />
Also, I assume that some of the participants are<br />
in relationships to which their significant others<br />
are unaware and unapproving of their partners’<br />
actions. This is the efficient solution for the man<br />
who wants dalliance. Having his cake but not coming<br />
home with crumbs in his stash. (“Ask Isadora”<br />
website, 2002)<br />
Although the sex scholars hadn’t picked up on adult group<br />
masturbation, a few anthropological writers have mentioned<br />
it in different cultures. In the US today, adult group masturbation<br />
has mostly earned notice only by gay and lesbian writers<br />
of sex manuals, advice books, and journalistic accounts.<br />
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