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find people who will think I am just dandy because I can cane<br />
someone for an hour without making them bleed? Assimilate<br />
that.<br />
When the term queer first came along, it was such a relief to<br />
be able to embrace a label that encompassed so much of my<br />
experience and identity. But normalization is as relentless as a<br />
marching troop of army ants. Queer is on the verge of becoming<br />
nothing but a synonym for gay. Just the way bisexual has<br />
come to mean gay, under the rubric of being inclusive. After<br />
decades of active attempts to purge bisexual women, a few<br />
lesbian groups now supposedly include bisexual women, but<br />
if these women talk about their male lovers, the atmosphere<br />
in the room is damn chilly. AIDS-service organizations pull the<br />
same lame maneuver. “Please come to our inclusive safersex<br />
workshop for gay/bisexual men, where we will only talk<br />
about your MALE sex partners.” You can’t expect Kinsey-6<br />
men to stay in the same room with the word vagina. There’s<br />
not enough Viagra in the world to erase that trauma.<br />
Living in a human body subjects us to unregulated and unfair<br />
pain and suffering. And we all cooperate in a system that<br />
multiplies that agony. Even when we gratify our basic needs<br />
by eating or sleeping in a warm bed, we enjoy those privileges<br />
on the backs of people who are hungry and sleeping on<br />
cold, dirty streets. At least my slaves can take off their collars<br />
when we’re done playing.<br />
I don’t want to give up the term queer because it still bugs<br />
people like the middle-class gay homeowners in the Castro<br />
who have halted plans to open a shelter for homeless queer<br />
youth in their beautiful neighborhood. I use it because every<br />
time I say it, I get an unpleasant jolt of memories of being<br />
called vile names or bashed, and I guess I hope that if I say<br />
it with enough aplomb and nonchalance, those memories<br />
will lose their power to subdue and terrorize me. The jaws<br />
of assimilation have closed around the word queer, but they<br />
haven’t managed to crush it into dust just yet.<br />
I think the term freak has to be reclaimed, as well. A freak<br />
is somebody who is unusual, stared at, upsetting, revealing<br />
And what about those diversity-loving political<br />
leaders who blithely refer to transgenderism<br />
as a sexual orientation? Hello, not all transgendered<br />
people are gay, and the norms for<br />
gender identity are not enforced the same way<br />
that norms for sexual conduct are regulated.<br />
“Gay Liberation” never included sadomasochism.<br />
Never saw any potential for pride or dignity<br />
in the eroticism of physical restraint and the judicious<br />
application of intense physical sensations. Doesn’t believe in<br />
the spiritual surcease of being forced to slow down, go within,<br />
escape the confines of the flesh, and fly up to a blissful<br />
realm of communion with the divine. Never saw any value in<br />
the establishment of a fantasy realm in which people actually<br />
get to decide what they will experience, and can let go and<br />
trust that their limits will be respected and everything that<br />
happens is done for their benefit. It’s too big a reminder of<br />
what we don’t have in real life—justice, consent, loving kindness,<br />
acceptance, pleasure, attention.<br />
Why is a pamphlet about how to<br />
put a condom on a hard cock more<br />
obscene than a teenage girl with<br />
an unwanted pregnancy or an<br />
adolescent boy who just learned he’s<br />
HIV-positive?<br />
by their difference what is wrong with the status quo. When<br />
a freak appears, the world is instantly divided into gawkers<br />
and the unique, solitary individual who has given them pause.<br />
There are those who cannot hide their shameful or alarming<br />
attributes, and those otherwise apparently normal people<br />
who love them. The cloak of the exile falls upon them, too,<br />
because their eyes and hearts have persuaded them to be<br />
loyal to people who are shunned. Freaks are entertainers,<br />
jesters, satirists, artists, beautiful in a way that few can endure<br />
or savor, intelligent in a way that makes others angry.<br />
If you don’t want to be a gawker and a rube, you gotta join the<br />
circus. Goddess knows I wish I could run away to one.<br />
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