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having—” and sort of between that and singing, “I<br />
took my organ to the party,” he’s fumbling around<br />
with his fly.... He takes this rather large tool out of<br />
his pants, and he starts to relieve himself—a fairly<br />
steady stream—and he starts talking to his organ<br />
and, by God, he calls the thing Hank. He says, “Aw,<br />
look at old Hank here, poor, poor old guy.” And he<br />
says, “You and I, we’ve been in a couple of tight<br />
places together and we’ve had our ups and downs,<br />
but I want you to know, you old sonofabitch”—<br />
and this is where he starts shaking it off—”that I<br />
outlived you!” 17<br />
And about a woman:<br />
This woman called her clitoris She. Apparently it<br />
began when she became sexually liberated—she<br />
found her own moral beliefs somewhat at odds<br />
with what her newly awakened body wanted to<br />
do, so that it was convenient for her to explain her<br />
behavior as a result of physical urges that she now<br />
felt very strongly in her clitoris. Remembering that<br />
somewhere she had read that adolescent males<br />
were led around by their penis, she decided that<br />
that was what was happening to her; she was<br />
being led around by her clitoris.... [She would say<br />
things like:] “She made me do it; I had nothing to<br />
do with it” (in describing or accounting for how<br />
she had gotten involved in a number of sexual<br />
incidents).<br />
Women sometimes name their dildos<br />
and vibrators.<br />
Sometimes partners join the dialog:<br />
I always talk to the penises of my male partners.<br />
That’s something I always do. I’ve never stopped<br />
doing that. As if, you know, “You go away—I’m<br />
talking to him.”<br />
When we name something, what are we doing? Besides humans,<br />
we name pet animals, vehicles, weapons, and other<br />
special objects. We use these names to indicate a particular<br />
relationship with us and to say that we find whatever-it-is<br />
unique, even an “honorary human.”<br />
He had brought columbines and campions, and<br />
new-mown-hay, and oak-tufts and honey-suckle<br />
in small bud. He fastened fluffy young oak-sprays<br />
round her breasts, sticking in tufts of bluebells and<br />
campion: and in her navel he posed a pink camion<br />
flower, and in her maidenhair were forget-me-nots<br />
and wood-ruff.<br />
“That’s you in all your glory!” he said. “Lady Jane,<br />
at her wedding with John Thomas.”<br />
And he stuck flowers in the hair of his own body,<br />
and wound a bit of creeping-jenny round his penis,<br />
and stuck a single bell of hyacinth in her navel. 18<br />
Like lovers and friends, the genitals seem to deserve special<br />
names because, like lovers—and alone among body parts!—<br />
the genitals can provide a very special pleasure, comfort, and<br />
satisfaction. Lovers and friends are very close to us, but yet<br />
not-us; so, too, our pelvic partners in life seem to be “us” and<br />
“not-us.” And, like lovers and friends, our genitals sometimes<br />
disappoint us. But we always remain attached to them and<br />
they to us, part of us always, yet somehow...unique.<br />
Endnotes<br />
An earlier version of this article was published as “Tom, Dick, and Hairy:<br />
Notes on Genital Pet Names,” Maledicta, 5.1+2 (Summer+Winter 1981):<br />
31-41.<br />
1. “A View Through the Speculum: A Workshop on Vaginal Health<br />
and Politics.” Sponsored by the Elizabeth Blackwell Health Center for<br />
Women. Philadelphia, 17 May 1980.<br />
2. Lawrence, D.H. Lady Chatterley’s Lover. New American Library, 1959:<br />
196-7, 212-4, 283. John Thomas is defined in slang dictionaries as “the<br />
penis; a personification of the penis” in British colloquial speech. (See<br />
Spears, Richard A. Slang and Euphemism. Middle Village, NY: Jonathan<br />
David, 1981; Healey, Tim. “A New Erotic Vocabulary.” Maledicta 4.2<br />
(Winter 1980): 191.) Thus, a man could refer to his own John Thomas or<br />
someone else’s. But Mellors uses it as a proper name,<br />
parallel to Lady Jane.<br />
3. For additional terms and expressions for genitals,<br />
see Tim Healey’s article in note 3 and Hankey, Clyde.<br />
“Naming the Vulvar Part.” Maledicta 4.2 (Winter 1980):<br />
220-2.<br />
4. However: “There once was a man from Montrose/Who diddled<br />
himself with his toes/He did it so neat/He fell in love with his feet/And<br />
christened them Myrtle and Rose.” Here the feet become the vulva/<br />
vagina, thus in a sense, Myrtle and Rose are analogous to genital pet<br />
names. So too, the hands when used for masturbation: Basketball star<br />
Dennis Rodman has admitted to “an ongoing relationship with Judy (his<br />
right hand) and Monique (his left)” (Segell, Michael. “The Sex Men Lie<br />
About.” Esquire, Sept 1996: 68). Indeed, pud-pulling slang in a number<br />
of languages personifies the hand, e.g., go see Mary Fivefingers or estar<br />
casado con la viuda de los cinco hijos. (See my The Big Book of Masturbation.<br />
San Francisco: Down There Press, 2003: 16-22.) Genital pet names carry<br />
over to artificial genitals—women sometimes name their dildos and<br />
vibrators. (Perhaps men name artificial vaginas, but I’ve never seen any<br />
examples.) In addition, some sex-toy catalogs use human names to refer<br />
to particular dildo designs. I have occasionally read about amputees<br />
who named their prostheses, and studying this is on my to-do list of<br />
neat projects. But I have never heard of anyone naming such common<br />
and nonerotic implements as false teeth or hearing aids. A phenom<br />
that could be related to genital pet names is the fact that expressions<br />
for menstruation sometimes personify it, e.g., “My Aunt Flow is<br />
coming from Redfield, Pennsylvania”; “I’ve got my friend”; “Grandma<br />
is here from Red Creek.” See Ernster, Virginia L. “American Menstrual<br />
Expressions.” Sex Roles, 1 (1975): 1-13.<br />
5. Pseudonyms are used for informants’ surnames. All informants were<br />
Caucasian. One woman self-identified as lesbian; the remainder, when<br />
information was supplied, described heterosexual relationships. I don’t<br />
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