Interpersonal Communication- A Mindful Approach to Relationships, 2020a

As communicators, each time we talk to others, we share part of ourselves.
• Symbols are words, pictures, or objects that we use to represent something else.
Symbols convey meanings. They can be written, spoken, or unspoken.
• There are many aspects to communication. Communication involves shared
meaning; communication is a process; has a relationship, intent, & content
dimension; is culturally determined, occurs in context; and is purposeful.
• In groups, provide a real-life example for each of these aspects: Communication
involves shared meaning, communication is a process, has a relationship, intent,
& content dimension, occurs in a context, is purposeful, and is culturally defined.
• As a class, come up with different words. Then, divide the class and randomly
distribute the words. Each group will try to get the other group to guess their words
either by drawing symbols or displaying nonverbal behaviors. Then discuss how
symbols impact perception and language.
• Can you think of some examples of the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis? For instance,
in Japan, the word “backyard” does not exist. Because space is so limited, most
Japanese people do not have backyards. This term is foreign to them, but in
America, most of our houses have a backyard.
1.3 Communication Competence
Exercises
Learning
Explain competence.
2. Distinguish between social appropriateness and personal
competence.
Outcomes1.
3. Identify characteristics of competence.
Brian Spitzberg (2000) argued that involved being both appropriate and
effective. 13 communication is what most people would consider acceptable behaviors.
communication is getting your desired personal outcome.
You might think about communicators who were appropriate but not effective and vice versa. The
two characteristics go hand in hand. You need to have both to be considered competent. Think about
coaches who might say horrible or inappropriate things to their players to motivate them. This may be
viewed as highly effective to some, but possibly very inappropriate to others. Especially if you are not
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