Leading with Emotional Intelligence: Hands-On ... - always yours

EMOTIONAL SELF-CONTROL TOOLS AND STRATEGIES 101
QUESTIONS AND ACTION APPLICATIONS
• Notice and write down what works when you put your emotional
brakes on. What did you do and say that helped regulate
you?
• Watch others to decipher what they are employing to manage
their emotions.
• What are your cues that your emotions are getting triggered
or you are getting overwhelmed? Try to be aware and catch
and redirect yourself early before the buildup. For me, I notice
I exchange or fumble over words more while talking. This
tells me to slow down and do something to relax.
• What activities work the best for you to drain your emotional
intensity, like taking a walk, talking to a friend, exercising,
stretching or yoga, starting a different task, deep breathing,
or relaxation.
• What activities recharge you the most and give you more
energy during the day? Are you doing them regularly?
5. MINDFULNESS
Dan Siegel writes, “Being mindful, having mindful awareness
is often defi ned as a way of intentionally paying attention to the
present moment without being swept away with judgments.” 20
Mindfulness has been practiced in the East and West from
ancient times to the present. Although it is practiced in many religions,
mindfulness is not necessarily religious. It is a focusing of our
attention that promotes health and can be seen as a brain hygiene. 21
It is a form of mental activity that trains the mind to become aware
of its awareness and its own intentions. Also it promotes health,
resilience, flexibility, calmness, and focus. These are key components
for being a Star Performer, maintaining your IQ points, and
being in the top 10%.