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SELF-CONFIDENCE TOOLS AND STRATEGIES 117
THE COACH’S CORNER: 10 STRATEGIES FOR
SELF-CONFIDENCE
Below are 10 proven strategies you can use to improve your
confidence. Confidence is the fuel to take risks, try new things, and
make the micro-initiatives necessary to become a Star. As you read
through the list, be aware of what you are already doing and what
actions you could do more of.
Read through the strategies and pick one or two to try out.
1. BEING ON YOUR CASE VS. BEING ON YOUR SIDE
Many leaders have “faulty evaluation systems.” They are rarely
satisfied when successful and are overly critical of their performance
even if they win and win big. This can become a rigid pattern. In
the past it may have driven them to great
successes, but over time it can become a
burden. They tend to continually try harder
and often fall short in their own eyes, often
sense that they are torturing themselves,
and still fall short in their own eyes. These
leaders will readily admit that they are hard
on themselves, but they believe it is the only
way to push themselves to their best performances.
It is as if they have a calculator
that is defective, but they do not realize it
. . . they have a
calculator that
is defective,
but they do
not realize it is
always off one
digit.
is always off one digit. When evaluating themselves, the calculator
should read 1,000, but instead it reads 100. They get upset about the
reading, but don’t realize their evaluation system is faulty or broken.
There are three major unintended consequences of Being on
Your Case rather than Being on Your Side:
• These leaders are never satisfied with their performance,
and their self-confidence is affected.