Leading with Emotional Intelligence: Hands-On ... - always yours

160 LEADING WITH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
QUESTIONS AND ACTION APPLICATIONS
• Do you have snapshots of people that are limiting how you
see them?
• Can you inquire about other successes they have had and
multiply or expand your snapshots of them?
• What are the snapshots of you? Are they more positive or
negative?
• Are you taking the opportunities to present the “collage” of
your successes and efforts?
Next, take the Meeting Menace Checklist to raise your awareness
of the behaviors that can handicap your pursuit of being a Star
Performer.
13. MEETING MENACE CHECKLIST
Check the box if you notice the behavior in yourself, a direct
report, or a peer at least one time in a two-month period.
1. Gets irritated, upset, or angry in a meeting.
2. Interrupts people frequently during a meeting.
3. Uses questions like weapons. They are not really
questions, but disguised statements.
4. Over-talks issues advocating only one’s own ideas.
5. Prevents people from managing or interacting with him
or her. Says, “I just have one more thing to say,” and
then continues to talk on.
6. Makes disagreements a grand performance.
7. Fails to build on others’ ideas.
8. Refuses to acknowledge others.
9. Puts others on the spot and urges them to express
an opinion about a confl ict.