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TEAMWORK AND COLLABORATION TOOLS AND STRATEGIES 161
10. Indulges in debating but doesn’t realize others
are uncomfortable and might see it as confl ict or
confrontation.
11. Is unprepared. Asks questions that have already
been covered.
12. Interrogates others about their points of view in a
condescending manner.
SCORE: If you made three or more checks, you are (or your
direct report or peer is) a Meeting Menace.
QUESTIONS AND ACTION APPLICATIONS
What are one or two things you can do that would help you
break out of being a Meeting Menace? For example:
• Take time to prepare for the meeting.
• Decide what outcomes you are looking for with each statement
you make.
• Ask clarifying questions before advocating your point.
• Get a coach to help you deal with what might be blind spots
and to learn new strategies.
• Work with a colleague to give you feedback if he or she
notices any of the “menacing behaviors.”
• Work with your supervisor on these development issues and
have him or her give you feedback if he or she notices any of
the behaviors.
Stars have a disciplined system for using meetings and maximizing
their use. They are prepared for each meeting and appreciate
the visibility that a meeting casts. Employing some of the
following actions will bring about the degree of difference (D.O.D.)
that moves your performance from good to great!
BECOME A MEETING MASTER
Employing the following collection of meeting tools, tips, and
insights will make you a Meeting Master. This chapter focuses on