Leading with Emotional Intelligence: Hands-On ... - always yours

SELF-CONFIDENCE TOOLS AND STRATEGIES 131
• “I have to control everyone and everything around me.”
• “I must feel happy every minute.”
Next to each rule you list, write #1, #2, or #3 if true for that particular
rule. It’s fi ne to have up to three numbers per rule.
#1 = It is outdated
#2 = It is too rigid
#3 = It is over-generalized
Now, answer these questions:
• How many of your success rules are outdated? Too rigid?
Over-generalized?
• What is the price for holding on to these rules?
• What is the first step to take in rewriting some of your
success rules?
• If you were to refresh this particular rule, how could you
make it more helpful and constructive?
• What will be the benefit for you in rewriting your rules?
• How will you know when rewriting these success rules actually
makes a tangible difference?
5. SUCCESS LOG
Another strategy to enhance confidence is to write a log of past
successes, broken into a chronology by age bracket. We all have had
many successes in our life, which are easy to forget or minimize.
These successes can leave footprints for future successes. And, you
can build your confidence by simply reviewing the list.
QUESTIONS AND ACTION APPLICATIONS
Think of successes, activities, or events when you were proud
of what you accomplished. These are the building blocks for
confidence.