Leading with Emotional Intelligence: Hands-On ... - always yours

DEVELOPING OTHERS TOOLS AND STRATEGIES 241
• What have you learned from your successes and mistakes?
• Write down what has been the highlight of each day.
• Write down what you feel most proud of each day.
• What patterns do you see with this daily reflection?
• What have you learned from your hardships?
4. SEEK FEEDBACK AND SUPPORT: The more people you
involve in your development plan, the more able you will be to hit
your targets. Can you get feedback to make sure you are on the right
track? They can provide: 1) feedback, 2) direction, 3) new strategies,
4) support, 5) motivation, and 6) accountability.
• Who are the best people to get feedback from?
• Who are the best people to get support from? (They may be
different.)
• Can you tell them exactly what you need and how they can
support you?
• What kind of feedback will not be useful to you? Let them
know that also.
• How can you support and foster mentoring relationships
with them?
5. TRANSFER LEARNING INTO NEXT STEPS: When you have
successes, how do you best codify them so you can see the patterns,
efforts, and support that allowed you to move forward? Often in
seminars or training I will ask participants how they had a success,
and their first answer is: “I don’t know, I just did it.” I want their
second, third, and fourth answers to what steps, training, and support
made this possible, so they can replicate it.
• Write down your success steps.
• Ask others to list what they saw you do that was helpful.
• To highlight the “how,” teach someone else what you did.
• Teach your learning to your team so they can benefit from it.
• Ask others to help hold you accountable for your new behaviors
by giving you feedback when you fall back into old habits.