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6° 6éme Congresso Congrès Européen Europeo de di Psicopatologia Psychopathologie dell’Infanzia de l’Enfance e et dell’Adolescenza
de l’Adolescence
Nuove Nouvelles normalità normalités Nuove Nouvelles patologie pathologies Nuove pratiche Nouvelles pratiques
THURSDAY, May 5 POSTER SESSIONS
Poster session 4 Families - Adoption - Support - Educational Training
3 - “FROM LOOK TO THOUGHT”
Diaz Rodriguez, Maria Esther
Psychiatric Section Chief, Complexo Hospitalario Universitario A Coruña - Spain
other member of the couple, and after that come
their "thoughts" on the same.
I think that Peter knows the way his parents
function and therefore he insists on this behaviour
that enables them to get in touch with each
other.
It is as if they could not “look” at each other.
The look appears as a guiding thread in possible
treatment with the parents, when the father
looks at me directly and I look at him, he has
doubts about what he is saying, they doubt both
the knowledge that they bring with them, in
which there is no space for their son, nor for
them as parents. It opens up a gap in their certainty,
entrance is given to the other as an equal,
and there timidly appears the other as a reference
to knowledge.
The look is present all the time, to look, to look
at oneself and to be looked at.
It is as if the parents desire to build an ideal
family with their child, that makes them define
family roles, needed the input of other members,
of other persons supporting those parents and
helping them to find their identity.
For this reason and because of their use of the
book as a third party, as a subject supposedly in
the know, that reassures, understands and gives
them guidelines, it is the guide, it is the mirror in
which they wish to be reflected, I’m wondering if
they aren’t calling on me to adopt them. That is
to say, that I listen and understand them.
And to adopt may be synonymous to choosing
something out of affection, the affection that appears
when they can see, again the look, for the
first time the child’s photo. And they became
"very excited”, they say.
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As the parents start making new demands
during the session, they go from prescription
drugs to the possibility of psychotherapy for
their son and for themselves, the treatment is
opening up as possible, as they are capable of
tolerating frustration.
In the adopted child the “no-desire” of his biological
parents, is usually a source of resentment
and hostility, while the “desire” of his adoptive
parents is usually what reconciles him with
life.
There are many personality traits of Peter
which have been invested positively by his parents.
Peter is a curious child, questions everything,
and observes before approaching other children,
he gives way to other children when he
can't dominate them. He thinks, comes towards
and moves away from his parents. And he has
given me the keys to what he has left inside the
toy boxes, and hidden to the eyes of others except
me and him. All of this makes me think that
I will be able to work with him.
He has already defined a space for both of us,
unique, where he delivered me the keys that
open his desire. And where, the look is again
present.
My offer of a course of treatment is to define
the space that each one occupies, to come to
know who they are, not just to be relieved and
“to know that the brain is receiving”, but it is
also necessary to think about what is being
broadcast from the point of view of parents who
have their child in mind, because if not, they become
“very excited” and conflict will arise, and
then risk.