23.7. 1993 Vitoria-Gasteiz / Spain - World Federation of Music Therapy

Here he discovered that to be an acceptable musician,
talent is not all it takes.
Though he worked with expedience, he was not able to
relate his ideas to the other band-members, because
they simply were not able to learn as easily by listening
only.
This lead to serious conflicts.
He quit, humiliated the others and left, slamming the
door.
In an individual lesson we discussed his behaviour.
He put the blame on the others.
He stated that they were not acceptable as musicians,
and that he was the only one working for the group.
I explained to him what I thought had actually taken
place.
He did admit he did not allow the others any possibility
to express critisism or to voice their own ideas.
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In the next session he again displayed his disability to
cope with criticism: C. completely let initiative to the
others, did not himself take any initiative at all and
watched scornfully laughing at how the band-rehearsal
failed completely.
And again I confronted him with his behaviour.
"Why is it always my fault" he replied in feigned
innocence.
I told him it is difficult to explain something when one
does not know the correct definitions.
I suggested that in this respect it might help him to learn
the theoretical background of what he already mastered
in practice.
In the end we took up lessons in musical theory, much
against his own will.
We also started an exercise in which he indicates how to
be accompanied in a song that is known to him only.